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What Makes Life So Full Now?

Sometimes I imagine trying to tell my younger self how life is now, as I approach 70. Where would I begin? What parts could I tell and what would I want to leave out? Musing like this, I remember a story I heard Ram Das tell, shortly after his book, Remember, Be Here Now, came […]

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Is There a Map for Growing Old?

About half way through what I was calling My Year of Living Dangerously—the year I thought might last forever with me languishing gloriously on the sofa reading novels and watching the wind shake through the poplars across the street—the matter of Growing Old came knocking on my door. It wasn’t what you might expect—some bad […]

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Shadows of Aging Part 1: Powerful Forces

The year I turned fifty, I was invited to Toronto to be a keynote speaker at a conference for women. A conference organizer, a barely controlled fireball named Victoria had invited two other women to be speakers as well. Michelle George, an actress and singer, was a virtual legend in Toronto for her spontaneous theatre […]

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Shadows of Aging Part 2: Disturbing the Furies

Once Michele George, Oriah Mountain Dreamer and I had launched into the first morning of “The First Canadian Conference on Women Elders,” we knew we were in trouble. As I look back now, I tremble at what we were setting in motion that day. The stereotypes of aging we were carrying came from some mix […]

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Becoming Elders

Trust.  Trust.  Trust.  So much trust is needed to come to my writing room every morning. To not lock back into what I think I know, all the old opinions, to what’s been said before by others, and so much better than I can say it. Especially by Eliot.  He already wrote in 1943 everything […]

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Growing a Heart of Wisdom Part 1: The Necessity of Grieving

An October morning in Dubrovnik. Clouds have been layering over the perfect blue horizon since sunrise— feathers drifting towards Italy in the west, splatters of white floating north to Slovenia, and small cream puffs piling up like tiny French wedding cakes in the south over Bosnia. Sitting here with two pillows plumped behind my back, […]

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Growing a Heart of Wisdom Part 2: Calling the Ancestors

Settling into my window seat on a short flight from Amsterdam to Frankfurt, I end up deep in conversation with a man in horn rims sitting next to me. I’d intended to hide behind the pages of the Herald Tribune but couldn’t resist his open, almost eager face. He’s Greek, he told me, a music […]

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The Zen of Aging

Through most of my thirties, I spent my dreamtimes following cobbled streets that angled into mysterious alleyways and climbing wide stone steps that descended to destinations I never reached. In the mornings, I’d hurriedly make breakfasts and the kids’ lunches and wait for the bus to take me to the subway and then into the […]

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